“Life after 50″…

Thank you to my sweet friend A for sharing… Every woman deserves to feel proud, valuable, and happy!!!

Life After 50: When You Look in the Mirror, What Do You See?

Barbara Hannah Grufferman

Barbara Hannah Grufferman

Author, ‘The Best of Everything After 50′; columnist, ThirdAge.com

 

An article in the U.K. Daily Mail stopped me in my tracks recently. New research, it reported, shows that more than 90 percent of women in their 40s and 50s are deeply unhappy with how they look and are suffering from what experts have dubbed “Midlife Mirror Angst Syndrome”.

Curious and apprehensive, I read the article. Not surprisingly, the women who were interviewed for the story were quite down on themselves:

“Ever since I turned 40, my reflection has upset me. I loathe what’s happening to my body, I am riddled with hang-ups — and I hate the fact I can’t control the changes I see.”

“Before the ageing process kicked in, I used to take all those sideways glances from men for granted. I’ve had to accept that I simply don’t turn heads any more.”

“I’m going through the menopause and it’s a shock every time I catch sight of myself in the mirror: I expect to see the woman I was in my 20s, but there’s a 50-something woman staring back at me.”

I used to feel that way — but no more.

 

A few years ago when I turned 50, this is what was staring back at me when I looked into the mirror:

A woman who:

-was starting to feel invisible and ignored

-hadn’t exercised regularly in many years

-had very little energy

    -had hair that looked like road kill because she had been blow-drying it to death for decades, trying to make it something it wasn’t (straight)

    – assumed that the 15 pounds she packed on after going through menopause was normal and would never come off

    – believed that she was no longer attractive

    – focused on her wrinkles

    – was feeling insecure about her place in the world

 

Need I go on?

 

 

I looked in the mirror and thought, “Okay, this is it. This is what being middle aged is all about, and I’d better just accept it.” Then, I mentally tucked myself under the proverbial blanket and was getting ready to stay there — until I pulled myself up by my bootstraps, declaring, “Giving up is not an option.”

Deciding that drastic action was required, I took it upon myself to get the best information from the best experts on nutrition, fitness, style, hair, makeup, health, finances, careers after 50 and everything else you could possibly think of to feel good and look good so that I could stare at that person in the mirror with a renewed sense of pride and confidence.

Armed with my new “look” and new attitude, I appeared on the Today Show to talk about how I learned to embrace my age instead of fighting it. During the interview with Ann Curry (see video below), I shared what I believe is the simple key to being fearless after 50: “Embrace your age, whatever it is. Love your life, get as healthy as you can, move your body every day, be informed, stay engaged, connect with others, use your mind, live with style, be bold, be brave and walk with confidence.”

 

 

The message has resonated with men and women around the country because we’re tired of being told that we are invisible and no longer relevant. I meet people over 50 every day who are engaged with life in ways they never thought they could be.

I can honestly say that turning 50 changed my life for the better. Instead of giving up and giving in, I did a bit of “tough love” on myself and took action. But more than that: I also realized that I didn’t want to just be alive; I wanted to have a life, a great, big, wonderful life after 50.

Before sitting down to write this piece, I looked in the mirror, and this is what I saw:

A woman who:

-just came back from running nine miles (with walk breaks and quite slowly)

    - will run in the New York City Marathon this year to celebrate her 55th birthday and raise money for the Pancreatic Cancer Action Network

    -can do 20 push-ups (just a few years ago she couldn’t even do one)

    - is starting a new business and has outlines for two other books

    - has come to truly understand and appreciate the power of connecting with other women who are, or have been, going through similar midlife experiences

    - can see the pride in her daughters’ faces when they look at this confident, happy and unstoppable woman their mother has become

    -smiles more often than not

    - is the happiest she has ever been

     

     

    That is what I see. Oh, about those wrinkles. Yes, they are still there. I love them, and I hope you come to love yours, too. They are the most empowering things I possess.

     

     

     

    xoxo

 

 

 

LLT - April 30, 2011 - 9:46 pm

“Embrace your age, whatever it is. Love your life, get as healthy as you can, move your body every day, be informed, stay engaged, connect with others, use your mind, live with style, be bold, be brave and walk with confidence.”

Aubs, you always hit the nail on the head. Your genuine, forever loving spirit is what makes you ageless, timeless, and unstoppable! Your confidence and all accepting attitude encourages others to embrace new ways of thinking and being; this is the new era of happiness! Love you, friend :x

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